Clients share with me their relationship experiences, and even more so want to hear about mine. After much consideration and debate over my seemingly abundant experience in the dating scene, I have come up with a very basic hypothesis. With this, I think might gel two people into matrimony, or at least be a good match for each other.

As many clients have conversed with me over the years regarding our love lives, I formed a theory that there could be five fundamentals for attracting and existing with a sustainable love partner. Even though I have shared this with many clients, I’d like to share it with many others.

So, here goes. And I’m not a scientist, and I’ve created no experiments, but I think it makes some sense based on observing mine and my clients over the past couple of decades that I have some empirical data.

So, here’s goes, again. I propose that in order to find our potential love match we must first find out if we both integrate within the attraction pack. This means, being attracted and compatible with each other emotionally, intellectually, physically, romantically, and sexually. In these five ways, I feel that this is what could sustain a healthy relationship. And no no I’m not in a serious relationship and haven’t been for probably a decade, as I’m too busy failing within them, learning from them, or observing them – than spending time within the wrong one.

I invite you to think about it. Imagine, that you’re in a relationship and you have this attraction pack together. Say if one or more of these fundamental conditions in the pack fails temporarily, then wouldn’t you at least have the others to fall back on? Perhaps it sustains your relationship, in the long run, being that eventually one of the five will reinstate itself at some point, as it was a permanent condition to begin with. And if it fails completely, then either work to re-develop the five elements or just give up! What would you prefer? If it’s not calibrated, then perhaps it could be time to move on and find that special someone you’re attraction-pack-compatible with.

Helping you feel lovely!

Sara Sedaghat

Declaration: Sara yields her progressive thought process with her specific learning differences and/or whilst venturing with scientific validity for the intention of supporting her client’s wellbeing.